Last October, I turned twenty, and so I thought it was about time I addressed some of the important things I have learnt throughout my teenage years, before taking the big step into 20+ life.
One – Reading books are a good way to avoid a problem, but don’t avoid the problem for too long. It’s better to address something straight away than later down the line.
Two – Spending too much time on social media is never a good idea. Remember people are only showing you what they want you to see.
Three – Money really isn’t everything. Yes, it feels good to have nice things, but having nice things all the time shouldn’t run your life.
Four – There is no such thing as too much cheesecake.
Five – Plan things. A planner is genuinely the best way to remember everything and keep track of what you’re meant to be doing. Those things you say you will remember for later, well, chances are you won’t without one.
Six – It is not just you who is experiencing hard times. The most important thing to do is lend an ear every once in while to the people who have helped you. True friendship forms when help is not just one-sided.
Seven – No, you cannot handle that much alcohol.
Eight – Bullies do not matter after high school. Don’t re-live all the sad or embarrassing moments. You do not need to let anyone from your past bring you down. It’s toxic.
Nine – Relationships are not everything, especially during your teenage years. Do not waste your time on anyone who isn’t as invested in you as you are in them. You don’t need to be in one.
Ten – You are not your mistakes. Don’t dwell. The past is the past.
Eleven – Volunteering once in a while really does make you feel good, and if everyone is benefiting then that is all that matters.
Twelve – Brutally honest moment – not everyone deserves your respect. Show respect when it is deserved.
Thirteen – DO NOT DYE YOUR HAIR BLACK WHEN YOU ARE THIRTEEN BECAUSE YOU WILL REGRET IT AND YOUR PARENTS WILL BE MAD.
Fourteen – Keep in contact with friends from high school and college. It’s always nice to re-live old memories every once in a while over the internet or in person.
Fifteen – Do whatever makes you happy because your happiness does matter.
Sixteen – Treat yourself every once in a while, because why not? You’ve gotten a good grade? You’ve done something you are proud of? You’re having a bit of a bad day? Treat yourself.
Seventeen – Not your drama, therefore not your problem. Leave it alone.
Eighteen – No means no, no matter the context or situation. If someone says no to anything, then respect what they say and move on.
Nineteen – Not everyone is going to like you or want to be your friend, but that’s okay because people have preferences and so do you.
Twenty – And finally, spend time with the people you care about the most. You never know when a situation can change.